text; un: little bird (cw: discussion of gender, some gender essentialism language)

[fanoperator]

Hello everyone! I want to ask about something I've been giving a lot of thought lately.

What are your thoughts or your culture's norms when it comes to gender?

Back home I was considered male, but I was a constant failure and a disappointment at everything that was considered normal and proper male behavior.

Here I've been assigned to a female role. I had a husband here for a brief time and my closet is full of women's clothing. All of the locals treat me like a woman, and honestly I like it. I'm much much better at it than I was at being male.

But I still have a male body: penis, no vagina. So what does that make me?

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text; @crowley

[demonicmiracle]

Not sure I'd call it a culture, but where I'm from originally we didn't even have genders. Don't know why humans make such a fuss about it.

Bodies are just bodies, be whatever the Hell you want.

[fanoperator]

I like that. I like my body, no matter what the gender assigned to it. And I like pretty dresses.

I feel like I ought to have some explanation for myself, but maybe you're right. Maybe just being Huaisang is enough.

[demonicmiracle]

Well, there you have it. We're lucky that the people here don't seem to care about it, not sure what that's all about but probably best not to look a gift horse in the mouth, as it were.

Humans have all sorts of words for gender and sex and all that business but I don't think there's a rule saying you've got to pick one or have an explanation for yourself. I certainly haven't.

[fanoperator]

[Huaisang hasn't heard the idiom specifically, but he's received plenty of gifts of horses and he understands the literal meaning of the idiom. Unfortunately, he's a bit foggy on the implication in this situation.] Do people give a lot of old horses where you come from?

That makes sense and I appreciate it. Thank you for your counsel.

[demonicmiracle]

Oh, nah, it's a saying. Like try not to criticize a gift too closely, or to not be ungrateful.

You're welcome, I am a font of untapped wisdom, after all. Just a shame no one's recognised it.

[Why is he like this.]

[fanoperator]

Has no one recognized it? My sympathies for that. From what I've seen so far, you seem to be very canny.